
by whatmegsaid
Have you ever been told that when you’re angry or upset over what someone has said to you, you should count to ten before responding to them? That’s great. Have you ever been told to count to ten before you try to encourage someone? What! You haven’t? Well, let me do so now.
Think before you speak
It’s normally when I’m riding in the car that I notice the things that people say on the radio (at home, I’m listening to an iPod or CD). I usually listen to a Christian radio station, and people who are going through tough times will call in to tell the people on the radio how encouraging the music is. Then the radio announcers will often pray for them, and nearly every time they say something like, “God knows how many hairs are on your head, and he knows what you’re going through right now,” and that is ABSOLUTELY true. And if this is really enough to encourage the people on the other side of the line, then fine, they can keep doing this. But for listeners like me, who have heard them say that exact thing several times, it has become a bit of a cliché.
It is not just that they repeat it over and over again, either, but it’s the way that they say it. The human head has anywhere from 100,000 to 200,000 hairs on it (some heads are a little easier to count than others), but God knows the exact number for your head, my head, Bob’s head, and a whole bunch more people (world population is around 6,800,400,000). Can you imagine knowing a 6 digit number for over 6 billion people?! Probably not! So it bugs me when the radio guy says, “God knows the number of hairs on your head,” without missing a beat. That verse has been used so many times that people don’t stop to think about what it really means.
Another too widely used phrase is, “God has a wonderful plan for your life.” This, too, is very true. God has an amazing and exciting plan for each one of His people. The problem? WAY overused!!! and WAY too easy for so many to say! Sitting outside Chemistry lab one day, a couple of young mothers started talking about a funeral that one of them had gone to. At first, it was just about the huge number of people who showed up, then they talked a little about how one of them had already made a will just in case something happened to her. Five minutes before the class before ours ended, one of them made a comment about how little the pallbearers did because modern coffins were so heavy. This led the other one to tell about a funeral of a two-month-old boy that she had been to, where the father had carried the coffin by himself, with the body inside, cradling it just like he would the baby. I have no idea whether this man was Christian or not, but I have to wonder what was going through that father’s head while he was holding the coffin of his little boy. Whatever it was, I’m sure that it wasn’t how God had a wonderful plan for his life. Right then, if someone had told him that, he probably would ask that person why God’s plan didn’t include his boy. The mother might be wondering if it mattered how many hairs were on her dead child’s head.
Give it time
While the over-use of these phrases do not make them any less true, it does start to become too easy for us to say them. If you can say it while talking casually into a microphone, then it is too easy. If you are not even to the middle of your life yet, and have not published any books about some terrible thing that has happened to you and how you got through it, it isn’t going to encourage anyone for you to tell them that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I am exactly the kind of person that I don’t think it would help for me to tell someone that their life is part of God’s plan. I have been incredibly blessed throughout my short life in my family, friends etc. I haven’t lost anyone very close to me, I haven’t done drugs, and I haven’t even had my heart broken over a boy breaking up with me. And I am not about to write any great, insightful book of philosophy. So why would someone believe me if I said their life was God’s plan? “Sure, that’s easy for you to say!” would undoubtably be the response.
The names that stand out when you think of great people are not the people who grew up in the average house with their .81 sibling and their 2.28 cars. Rather, they are people who have gone through something really tough and came to praise God through it. Joni Eareckson Tada, at age 17, was paralyzed from a diving accident and was told that she would never walk or even put on her own makeup again. But with the help of a lot of family and friends, since her accident “she has written 35 books, accepted a Presidential appointment to the National Council on Disability, spoken in more than 45 countries, established a disability ministry that reaches around the world, and produced paintings with a brush between her teeth.” And as of April 1, Tada “has been officially inducted as Indiana Wesleyan University’s 2009 World Changer during a ceremony held today in Luckey Arena.” (quotes from Indiana Wesleyan University).
Tada is a person who can say that God has an amazing plan for your life!! And she is someone the rest of us can point to, and tell people about, even if we haven’t had many troubles ourselves.